“Tell your crush you like them, kiss that boy you like.” Actually, don’t.
Look at the featured image. We’ve all come across posts like that. If you’re feeling a little blue or susceptible, you might be moved to think “Hey, I can do this. I’m going to change my life!”. Yes, the concept of Carpediem (Seize the day) is undeniably alluring, it reminds us we could do just about anything. Thats a lot of possibilities.
But here’s the catch. Being impulsive is sexy, not practical. Not all the time, anyway.
Allow me to show you how.
Exhibit A: You like a guy/girl. You’ve just watched Dead Poets Society or scrolled through tumblr and looked at too many posts telling you to just “Tell him already”. So with your heart beating a little faster than usual, you send them something along the lines of “I really like you” or “I’m crazy about you”. No “Hey” or “what’s up?” because we’re being spontaneous here, remember?
Now we wait. A minute passes. And then five. Your heart rate is completely normal now. It’s anti-climatic and now you’re bored. They probably come online the next morning and be like “what?”. Out of the moment, your case seems weak and stupid. Let’s say you try and explain. And he/she says “Lol.”
It doesn’t matter what you say if the other person isn’t in a state to receive it. Anybody who’s tried this shit will agree with me.
Doing something that scares you is exhilarating but don’t just jump out of the plane without the parachute. It will hurt.
I’m not just talking about romance. Maybe it’s a job you’ve been wanting to quit or wanting to move out. The spontaneity promises highs that it might not deliver, and temporarily makes all consequences inconceivable. Trust me, they’re there.
I’m not saying everyone is as lucky as I am 😛
For a lot of people, the situation I described may have played out differently.
I’m also not advocating that you live a predictable boring life with no space for spontaneity. If you want to change your life, you can. If you want to get that guy, you can. But once you decide that, maybe your first step could be something logical, like getting to know the person. I’ve seen people change their lives. They work on it, it’s constructive and planned. There’s a lot of groundwork involved.
Just to be clear, I’m talking about big decisions which has the potential to jeopardise immediate relations with people who matter to you. I’m not saying don’t surprise your SO with a present or don’t go on that solo trip you had been planning for so long. Those aren’t the ones I’m talking about.
This is something I’ve felt every time I come across posts like these. Such a lot of potential for humiliation 😛 If you’re anything like me, it’s too easy to end up with your foot in your mouth.
I’m all for making mistakes, just not ones you’ll regret.